The Travelin Bum World Tour

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I am heading out on what some might call “The Travelin Bum World Tour” where I will be staying with people from different countries to gain a better understanding of what it is like to be part of the LGBT community in other cultures. The first day aka traveling day. I left my New York City apt to head to Newark airport where I was flying to Lisbon. I made it through customs, found my gate, naturally found an outlet where I started charging my phone. I didn’t acknowledge anyone, I just sat down with my sunglasses on and wasn’t in the mood to speak to anyone. This kid comes up to me and says hey can you watch my stuff, I said sure why not. As I watched him walk away I thought hmm he is kinda cute. 

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When he came back he laid on the floor with me and and he said “Hey, I’m Joey” and we naturally started talking about life. He asked me about my shirt and I told him about the Travelin bum. I asked Joey what brought him on this flight to Lisbon.. he said he just escaped the Marine Core and was honorably discharged. He realized the Marine Core wasn’t for him and the path he was on wasn’t good. Joey and I were both on our way to Italy. We shared the next 2 flights together and obviously a pit stop to get chicken nuggets was on the agenda. 

On our last flight from Lisbon to Italy we shared our personal coming out stories. Joey told me that when he first came out he was drunk, for those who know me I was also drunk. Joey was rushed to the hospital for being too drunk and they thought he wasn’t going to make it. He woke up still wasted and told his parents he was gay and as respectable parents they weren’t even phased by his words. Joey obviously survived the night and his parents have loved and supported him ever since in regards to his sexuality. However Joey’s family did not support his travels to Europe. They told him that he didn’t have the money, or a job, or anything planned now that he left the Marine Core. He told said “Mom I’ll figure it out”. 

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We then landed in Milan, parted ways, both with intentions to one day see each other again. Joey who is also traveling alone taught me that sometimes lost opportunities can lead you to where you want to be. He realized the Marine Core wasn’t for him and financially maybe this wasn’t the brightest decision, but in reality when is the timing or finances aligned? Take a risk in life and let the cards fall as they may. 10 years from now we will remember more about the experiences with each other, more than sitting at home watching our bank accounts reach five thousand dollars. Money will come and go, but our youth and the opportunity to travel while we are young diminishes day by day. 

9 Things You Should Do In Your 20's

Your 20s are your years to be selfish. It's a decade that allows you to run the world. Here are 9 things I am learning to take advantage of. 

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1. Go After Your Dream Job

Don't take a job, just to take a job. Take a job because it is a stepping stone to get you to where you want to be. I have seen countless friends complacent at work but no one going after what they said they want in life. Maybe my savings account isn't where theirs is, but I would rather love where I live and strive and struggle for who I want to become. 

 

2. Make Time For Your Best Friends

Graduating college was one of the most terrifying life accomplishments I had to face. College was the first place I finally felt comfortable in my own skin, learned how to live away from home, and made best friends that helped mold me into the person I am today. No matter how far of a drive (even with a suspended license), money, or time it may take to get to them, I never turn down a weekend with them. They will be the ones that stick by your side and keep you grounded as you grow into different directions in your careers. They were the one who knew you, before you even knew who you were! And don't forget, they are the ones that have the blackmail photos of you from college, so you might want them on your good side!

3. Travel A Lot and Travel Alone

Find the courage to travel and even travel alone. There is nothing more exciting then meeting new people and finding a new place you never expected to find. Over time you will get more in touch with yourself, discovering who you are and what you want out of life. Pack your suitcase, get on a plane, don't worry about the money- it'll come eventually (I'm hoping). 

4. Love Yourself and Allow Someone to Love You

Love is the best and worst thing I have ever experienced in my life. I'v learned you need to love yourself before anyone can really love you. Love helps you discover what you need and want in a person. A relationship will only last if 2 people grow alongside each other as you live your own lives. It can be a battle but it will all come together in the future... or never if you are us 2. 

5. Don't Be Afraid To Ask

To get where you want to be in life, you need to ask. No one can discover what you want if you don't vocalize it. If you want a day off to go on vacation, ask, if you want a pay raise, ask, if you don't ask you won't get. 

6. Look After Yourself

Right now is the youngest you will ever be. In 10 years you are going to look at yourself and realize you don't look the way you did when you were 20. Whether that means start exercising, take care of your skin, eat a little healthier, do it now before your metabolism slows down. It's a lot harder to pick yourself back up once you start going down. 

7. Look After Your Mental Being

Your brain is a powerful thing. It can make you the happiest person on earth or the saddest. Challenge your brain and expose yourself to all the emotions within it. Now is the time to learn how to maturely handle your emotions without letting them effect your life's day to day tasks. 

8. Make Time For Family

Family is the only group of people who will never stray away from you. They are there to pick you up when you are mentally down, give you money when you financially made a dumb decision, and teach you how to live life from mistakes they have made! They have been around you since you were born, you are who you are because of them, the way they raised you. 

9. Discover What You Want Out Of Life

As a 20 something year old I find myself getting wrapped up in the work, eat, drink, and sleep routine. Often times I get so busy I forget to take time to think about what I really want out of life. I find myself thinking where the fuck did the month just go because I get so consumed in my social life I lose track of where I want to be in the future. Make sure you make time for yourself because thats the only real time you get to know yourself and where you want to go!