The Travelin Bum World Tour

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I am heading out on what some might call “The Travelin Bum World Tour” where I will be staying with people from different countries to gain a better understanding of what it is like to be part of the LGBT community in other cultures. The first day aka traveling day. I left my New York City apt to head to Newark airport where I was flying to Lisbon. I made it through customs, found my gate, naturally found an outlet where I started charging my phone. I didn’t acknowledge anyone, I just sat down with my sunglasses on and wasn’t in the mood to speak to anyone. This kid comes up to me and says hey can you watch my stuff, I said sure why not. As I watched him walk away I thought hmm he is kinda cute. 

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When he came back he laid on the floor with me and and he said “Hey, I’m Joey” and we naturally started talking about life. He asked me about my shirt and I told him about the Travelin bum. I asked Joey what brought him on this flight to Lisbon.. he said he just escaped the Marine Core and was honorably discharged. He realized the Marine Core wasn’t for him and the path he was on wasn’t good. Joey and I were both on our way to Italy. We shared the next 2 flights together and obviously a pit stop to get chicken nuggets was on the agenda. 

On our last flight from Lisbon to Italy we shared our personal coming out stories. Joey told me that when he first came out he was drunk, for those who know me I was also drunk. Joey was rushed to the hospital for being too drunk and they thought he wasn’t going to make it. He woke up still wasted and told his parents he was gay and as respectable parents they weren’t even phased by his words. Joey obviously survived the night and his parents have loved and supported him ever since in regards to his sexuality. However Joey’s family did not support his travels to Europe. They told him that he didn’t have the money, or a job, or anything planned now that he left the Marine Core. He told said “Mom I’ll figure it out”. 

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We then landed in Milan, parted ways, both with intentions to one day see each other again. Joey who is also traveling alone taught me that sometimes lost opportunities can lead you to where you want to be. He realized the Marine Core wasn’t for him and financially maybe this wasn’t the brightest decision, but in reality when is the timing or finances aligned? Take a risk in life and let the cards fall as they may. 10 years from now we will remember more about the experiences with each other, more than sitting at home watching our bank accounts reach five thousand dollars. Money will come and go, but our youth and the opportunity to travel while we are young diminishes day by day. 

Noon By Noor

FALL/WINTER 2017 COLLECTION

(New York, NY) – Noon By Noor's Fall 2017 collection contrasts oversized masculine shapes with feminine draped silhouettes, a key theme from the designers Shaikha Noor Al Khalifa and Shaikha Haya Al Khalifa.

The Fall collection further develops the Pre-Fall theme of fluidity with an emphasis on cut and the manipulation of cloth. Fabrics are double-faced, sumptuous, and soft to the touch. Panne velvet and fluid jerseys accentuate the light and shade of draped silhouettes, while textural gazar gives modern volume for evening. Soft drape comes in the shape of a lightweight faded floral chiffon print dress with fluid layers that create movement and delicate structure.

Celebrities Olivia Culpo is wearing a Noon By Noor SS17 Silhouette, Alexa  Chung is wearing a Noon By Noor PF17 pantsuit and Leigh Lezark is wearing a Noon By Noor PF17 Sweater and Coat.

Corn VS Taylor Who Will Win This Hoe-Down?

The episode starts at the pool, where Vanessa gives Nick an ultimatum: “if Corinne stays, I will give back my rose and leave”. Corinne is somewhere sleeping on a bed of cheese pasta. Taylor and Sarah wake her up and tell her that she is acting a little entitled. Corinne, a blonde, white, attractive, young woman with a nanny, insists that she is not privileged and that Taylor and Sarah are just obsessed with her… leading us to believe that Corinne definitely voted for Trump. The rose ceremony goes just as we thought it would, and shocker, no one gave their rose back.

Instead of traveling to Bali or Mexico like we have in the past, the ladies find themselves en route to Milwaukee, Wisconsin. Yay? They all seem so excited at the thought of meeting Nick’s parents, and I’m over here like – y’all just met this guy like 12 days ago, do you even know his middle name yet?

Any who, Nick’s parents just want to know why he’s putting himself through this fresh hell again. His mother suggests that he may not even know what love feels like anymore because he’s been single for so long. Geez mom, kind of sounding like the asshole older brother there. This week, Danielle L gets the one-on-one date and we can’t help but feeling bad for her. Nick clearly doesn’t have anything planned so he decides to drive around and show her various spots in town where he used to make out with his home-grown hunnies where they stop to lay in a field where he lost his virginity....Romantic! They happen to “run into” one of his exes, who tells Danielle L that if Nick “doesn’t feel it to the point where he feels it, he just backs out.” I’m not even sure what that really means, but he only dated her for three months so I’m not sure Danielle L should be taking advice from her anyways. Danielle L of course gets the rose.

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It’s time for the group date and the “lucky” ladies are headed to the dairy farm. Watching Nick feed a baby cow may have been cute for like one second, but then shit got real. Literally. They have to feed the cows, milk them, and then “shovel the poopy” as Corinne said. 

"I respect you for shoveling the poopy. I do. I really, really do. It takes a lot of courage, and a really blind sense of smell, to shovel that poopy. But I had a really serious hand situation, and I just couldn't shovel that poop"

Corinne went on to say that she is “a corn husk; you gotta pull all the layers back. And in the middle is this luxury yellow corn. With all these pellets of information. And it’s juicy, and buttery.” You’re right, baby doll, you are just luxury, juicy, buttery, NOT PRIVILEGED, corn.

During the cocktail hour of the date, Corinne decides to attempt some reconciliation with the other ladytestants. Her version of reconciliation is to be as fake as they are to her. Not the worst plan. Kristina gets the group-date rose and Raven gets the next one-on-one rose, after explaining to Nick’s dad what her name meant.. Again, dating this guy for twelve days so what other small talk is there to be had really..

This weeks cocktail party was more of a hoe-down – pun intended – as the ladies pike into an abandoned barn. Danielle L steals Nick away and everyone is upset because she already has a rose so why would she still want to talk to Nick… Taylor stands near them, shivering in her sleeveless frock, until she finally gets some time with Nick. Unfortunately for her, however, Corinne decides tonight is the night she wants Taylor to cash her outside.

“Taylor is fake and nasty. So tonight I’m going to go punch her in the face.” Howbowdah. Taylor tries to explain the concept of emotional intelligence to an adult woman who has a nanny. Good luck with that. We’ll find out just how well Corinne takes it next week! And remember y’all, “Michael Jordan took naps. Abraham Lincoln took naps,” napping is important.

9 Things You Should Do In Your 20's

Your 20s are your years to be selfish. It's a decade that allows you to run the world. Here are 9 things I am learning to take advantage of. 

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1. Go After Your Dream Job

Don't take a job, just to take a job. Take a job because it is a stepping stone to get you to where you want to be. I have seen countless friends complacent at work but no one going after what they said they want in life. Maybe my savings account isn't where theirs is, but I would rather love where I live and strive and struggle for who I want to become. 

 

2. Make Time For Your Best Friends

Graduating college was one of the most terrifying life accomplishments I had to face. College was the first place I finally felt comfortable in my own skin, learned how to live away from home, and made best friends that helped mold me into the person I am today. No matter how far of a drive (even with a suspended license), money, or time it may take to get to them, I never turn down a weekend with them. They will be the ones that stick by your side and keep you grounded as you grow into different directions in your careers. They were the one who knew you, before you even knew who you were! And don't forget, they are the ones that have the blackmail photos of you from college, so you might want them on your good side!

3. Travel A Lot and Travel Alone

Find the courage to travel and even travel alone. There is nothing more exciting then meeting new people and finding a new place you never expected to find. Over time you will get more in touch with yourself, discovering who you are and what you want out of life. Pack your suitcase, get on a plane, don't worry about the money- it'll come eventually (I'm hoping). 

4. Love Yourself and Allow Someone to Love You

Love is the best and worst thing I have ever experienced in my life. I'v learned you need to love yourself before anyone can really love you. Love helps you discover what you need and want in a person. A relationship will only last if 2 people grow alongside each other as you live your own lives. It can be a battle but it will all come together in the future... or never if you are us 2. 

5. Don't Be Afraid To Ask

To get where you want to be in life, you need to ask. No one can discover what you want if you don't vocalize it. If you want a day off to go on vacation, ask, if you want a pay raise, ask, if you don't ask you won't get. 

6. Look After Yourself

Right now is the youngest you will ever be. In 10 years you are going to look at yourself and realize you don't look the way you did when you were 20. Whether that means start exercising, take care of your skin, eat a little healthier, do it now before your metabolism slows down. It's a lot harder to pick yourself back up once you start going down. 

7. Look After Your Mental Being

Your brain is a powerful thing. It can make you the happiest person on earth or the saddest. Challenge your brain and expose yourself to all the emotions within it. Now is the time to learn how to maturely handle your emotions without letting them effect your life's day to day tasks. 

8. Make Time For Family

Family is the only group of people who will never stray away from you. They are there to pick you up when you are mentally down, give you money when you financially made a dumb decision, and teach you how to live life from mistakes they have made! They have been around you since you were born, you are who you are because of them, the way they raised you. 

9. Discover What You Want Out Of Life

As a 20 something year old I find myself getting wrapped up in the work, eat, drink, and sleep routine. Often times I get so busy I forget to take time to think about what I really want out of life. I find myself thinking where the fuck did the month just go because I get so consumed in my social life I lose track of where I want to be in the future. Make sure you make time for yourself because thats the only real time you get to know yourself and where you want to go! 

 

Men's Chokers In or Out?

Men's chokers? In or out? Clothing has become fluid over the past year with celebrities like Matt Lauer, Jaden Smith, and Kid Cudi all proving clothing has no gender. So lets be real... were we really surprised to hear ASOS announced they were going to start debuting chokers for men? Of course not, it's 2017!

You can go back to the 1960's and '70's when rockstars like Iggy Pop, Jimi Hendrix, and Mick Jagger made them popular. Let's not forget music icons like David Bowie, John Lennon, and elvis Presley who also have rocked the nostalgic choker. More recently Harry Styles and Young Thug have been pictured with the accessory.

Even with all of their popular history,  GQ has made it their stance to tear down the newly resurfaced menswear trend before it explodes, in article titled, “Stop Men’s Choker Necklaces Before They Start”. One thing they  assured readers was  that breaking gender barriers in fashion was great, just not in the realm of men wearing chokers.

GQ writer Jake Woolf stated “And while we understand that gender in fashion is more fluid than ever, this is one area that is best left to the ladies. Plus, us guys have had our version of a choker necklace forever, and it’s called a necktie.”

The popularity of the choker was a fashion yes in women's fashion 2016 and now raising eyes in men's fashion in 2017! With NYMFW only 2 weeks away we are expecting to see chokers galore. Affinity Haus approves the mens choker!